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    Your Christmas dilemmas solved!

    The festive season is a time for joy and family, but for some people it brings a fair amount of stress too. Relationship coach Shelley Lewin, and Savannah Steinberg, personal mastery specialist, offer solutions for holiday problems. Keeping up with the Joneses ‘My husband and I are spendaholics. We always overspend during the Christmas holidays […] More

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    Paternity fraud between husband and wife: deceit or conduct?

    Paternity fraud I’ve written here previously about the not uncommon scenario whereby a man claims to have been deceived by a mother into believing, incorrectly, that he is the father of her child. The man may then be expected to maintain the child. It seems that the scenario has a name: ‘paternity fraud’. I’ve also […] More

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    Divorce predictors

    7 behaviours you need to stop. Destructive behaviours can tear marriages apart – but it doesn’t have to be that way for yours. Jokingly criticising your partner, being sarcastic or even something as ‘innocent’ as eyeball-rolling may not be as harmless as you thought. Joburg-based couples counsellor and relationship therapist Michael Kallenbach explainshow to stop […] More

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    Is most domestic violence a two-way thing?

    I realise that this post may be considered by many to be controversial, but controversy is not my intention in writing this. My intention is simply to explore a complex and important subject with an open mind. After all, to do otherwise would be to fail to do justice to the subject of domestic violence. […] More

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    What they were saying at the domestic abuse survivors’ protest

    Last Thursday I mentioned here the protest in Westminster on Saturday by the group “The Court Said”, which is demanding changes to the Domestic Abuse Bill, to protect domestic abuse survivors in the family court. As I explained in my post, the campaigners feel that the balance between protecting abuse victims and promoting contact is […] More

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    Domestic abuse survivors to protest this weekend

    Westminster has been a hive of protest recently. Whether another protest, due this Saturday, will be noticed amongst all the others, I don’t know. Still, that isn’t deterring a group of domestic abuse survivors, who are campaigning to change the way domestic abuse is treated in the family court. The Court Said Specifically, the protest, […] More

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    When parents have different parenting styles

    Different strokes Your socialisation has a huge impact on the way you raise your kids. But what happens when you and your husband don’t agree with each other’s parenting styles? Your 16-year-old comes home with a term report full of below-average marks. Concerned, you sit them down and ask what the problem is. But when […] More

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    7 secrets of really happy couples

    When you’ve been in a long-term relationship you develop certain habits that can sometimes be irritating to each other. We share the seven secrets of couples who have cracked the happiness code. When certain behaviours start affecting your relationship, it can leave you both frustrated. Intensive relationship therapist and founder of Couples Help, Louis Venter, […] More