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    What is a child arrangements order?

    A child arrangements order is a court order that sets out who has responsibility for the care of a child, including who they live with and how often they will see/ have contact with both parents. 
    Most commonly used in cases where the parents cannot reach an agreement on how to share the care of their children, the purpose of the order is to ensure that the child’s welfare is the first and foremost consideration. 
    Things to consider before applying for a child arrangements order
    Before you make an application for a child arrangements order, you should try to agree on the arrangements with the other party.
    You can consider preparing a parenting plan; a written statement that both parents sign up to establish the ground rules of shared parenting. 
    Mediation can also assist parents in reaching an agreement about arrangements for their children.
    If an agreement cannot be reached, then it will be necessary to issue an application for a child arrangements order. 
    What is a child arrangements order? What does it mean?
    A child arrangements order is a court order that sets out who is responsible for the care of a child. 
    It is usually used in cases when the parents cannot agree on how to split care of their children. 
    What conditions can a child arrangements order specify?
    A child arrangements order can state: 

    Who the children live with

    Where they live

    When and how the children will see both parents

    For example, they may spend weeknights in the family home and weekends with their mother/father.
    It can also set out other types of contact such as through phone calls, video calls, cards and letters etc.
    Who can apply for a child arrangements order?
    The following people can apply for an order without prior permission from the court. 

    A parent, guardian or special guardian of the child

    A spouse or civil partner if the child is part of that family

    Someone with parental responsibility 

    Someone who already has a residence order for that child

    Someone who the child has lived with for more than three years

    Grandparents, who do not meet any of the criteria above, have to apply to the court for permission before applying for the order. 
    How do I apply for a child arrangements order?
    You will need to obtain a signed MIAM* form before you can make an application for a child arrangements order. * MIAM is the Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting.  This is a required step for anyone having a dispute regarding children unless certain exceptions apply such as domestic abuse.
    An application for a child arrangements order is made on a C100 form.  This sets out the details of the children and the parties involved.  You will be asked to state which orders you are seeking and why.
    You will also need to complete a C1A form if you are alleging harm and domestic violence.
    Once you have completed the C100 form, you will need to send it to the court in triplicate along with the court fee which is currently £215, unless you are eligible for a fee exemption.
    The application should be sent to the nearest court to where the children concerned in the application live.
    Once the court receives your application, it will set a date for everyone involved in the application to have a First Hearing Dispute Resolution Appointment (FHDRA).
    The court will send a copy of the application to the other party, and they must complete an acknowledgement form and return it to the court to confirm that they have seen the papers.
    Understanding the court process to obtain a child arrangements order 
    How long does a child arrangements order last?
    Generally, a child arrangements order will expire when the child turns 18 years old unless otherwise stated. 
    How much does it cost?
    You will need to pay the current court fee of £215 unless you are eligible for a fee exemption and your solicitor’s fees. While you do not need a solicitor to apply for the order, it’s advisable to have professional legal advice from an experienced family lawyer as this area of law can be complicated. 
    What do the courts consider when granting a child arrangements order?
    First and foremost, the courts will consider what is in the best interests of the child using the welfare checklist, which considers the following:

    The wishes and feelings of the child concerned dependent on their age and level of understanding

    The child’s physical, emotional and educational needs

    The likely effect on the child if circumstances changed as a result of the court’s decision

    The child’s age, sex, background and any other characteristics which will be relevant to the court’s decision

    Any harm the child has suffered or may be at risk of suffering

    The capability of the child’s parents (or any other person the courts find relevant) at meeting the child’s needs

    The powers available to the court in the given proceedings

    Is a child arrangements order legally binding?
    Yes, this order is legally binding, and if a parent breaches it, they will be in contempt of court which could mean fines, enforcement orders, unpaid work in the community and even imprisonment (although this is extremely rare).
    How are child arrangements orders enforced?
    Unfortunately, these orders are not always complied with.
    If you are experiencing difficulties with a child arrangements order, try to discuss the breach (s) with the other parent in the hope that you can reach an agreement without having to return to court. Meditation can also help here. 
    If you have to return to court, an application for enforcement is made on a Form C79. 
    Enforcement proceedings must be dealt with without delay and if possible, listed before the judge that dealt with matters previously. A hearing will be listed within 20 working days of the application being issued.
    Read more about what happens when a parent breaks a court order. 
    Can I stop a child arrangements order?
    Circumstances change, and it is not uncommon that a child arrangements order no longer works for the child or the parents, particularly as children get older. 
    You can ask the court to vary an order; however, before making an application, it is advisable to look at other methods of negotiation. This could be negotiation via solicitors or mediation. In some cases, where there are older children involved, they too can attend mediation to tell the mediator what it is that they want. 
    If this not possible, you will need to complete a C100 application form and explain why you are asking the court to vary the current child arrangements order. 
    The court will only vary the order if they consider it to be in the best interests of the child to do so.
    However, where possible,  try and stay out of court as it is expensive, time-consuming and upsetting for the whole family.
    How can a lawyer help with a child arrangements order?
    Taking professional advice from a specialist family lawyer will ensure that you have someone on your side who knows the law and understands how the courts work. 
    A family lawyer will help you to understand the likely outcome of the order and help you to change or improve the outcome. 
    This is a complex area of the law and going to court is expensive. A family lawyer can help you to negotiate with your ex-partner and hopefully settle the case amicably. 
    Get in touch
    If you would like any advice on child law, you can find further articles here or please do contact our Client Care Team to speak to one of our specialist children lawyers here. 
    This article was originally published on an earlier date and has since been updated.  More

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    How does conflict during separation and divorce affect children?

    The effect of conflict during separation and divorce on children 
    Luisa Williams, CEO & Founder from My Family Psychologist joins us on the blog with her advice on how does conflict during separation and divorce affect children? 
    Imagine that you are about to go on the world’s scariest rollercoaster ride. 
    You didn’t want to go on it at first, but you have been told by others that not going on this rollercoaster would be the wrong decision. 
    You have been arguing with your partner for the past six months about it and having a constant push and pull. 
    You have to decide whether this is a rollercoaster you want to experience, whether you can afford to go on this ride and what you want to achieve. 
    Then, if you decide that you have to ride it, so does everybody you care about, even if they don’t want to.  
    Now, imagine that your child or children have witnessed all of your arguments about the rollercoaster and feel that they have no choice but to ride that rollercoaster with you. 
    This level of conflict has impacted that child so much that they are now involved in this situation against their own will. 
    How do you think that this has impacted them?  
    Separation and divorce
    Separation and divorce are by no stretch of the imagination, a conflicting and challenging situation to be in, not to mention the added hardship of having children as part of that equation.  
    So what is a high-conflict separation or divorce?  
    Previous research has shown that high-conflict separation or divorce often refers to verbal or physical altercations between parents as witnessed by the child. 
    It can feel like a tug of war for children who are in the centre and have parents pulling on opposite ropes, which can be extremely overwhelming for a child.  
    What does the research say about how a high-conflict separation and divorce can affect children?  
    Previous findings from research date back to the 1970s, 1980s, and 1990s and suggest that children are not necessarily negatively affected by living in a single-parent family but more so by the conflict witnessed. 
    Much of the research has shown that family conflict, especially parental conflict, can harm children in the following ways.  
    Mental health  
    Children who find themselves caught in the middle are more likely to experience depression and anxiety. 
    Jekielek (1998) used data from a longitudinal study which concluded that parental conflict had a consistently significant negative impact on child anxiety and depression four years later, suggesting that parental conflict has enduring effects on child well-being. 
    Furthermore, studies have concluded that children experience less anxiety and depression when their high-conflict, married parents’ divorce.  
    Their future relationships with others  
    Long term exposure to high conflict can have an adverse effect, especially as children may observe parents engaging in this behaviour and replicate in their relationships (Gager, Yabiku & Linver, 2016). 
    These children also tend to have impaired relationships with peers. Furthermore, the poor role modelling demonstrated by their parents leads these kids to have no idea what it means to have real friendships, and their expectations of friends can become quite distorted. 
    Their self-esteem, self-concept and identity  
    A study by Raschke and Raschke (1979) found that family conflict can be detrimental to their self-concept. 
    This has since been supported by other research which has found that high conflict post-divorce may lead to parents being alienated from their children (Dunne & Hendrick, 1994). 
    This can negatively impact children’s self-esteem and self-sufficiency in adulthood (Ben-Ami & Baker, 2012).   
    Their behaviour including risk-taking  
    Evidence suggests that children experiencing their parents’ divorce or separation is associated with lower levels of wellbeing (Amato, 2010) and more behavioural problems (Hetherington & Kelly 2002; Weaver & Schofield, 2015).  
    In particular, it can affect interpersonal skills (Kim, 2011) and externalising behaviours such as conduct problems (Kelly & Emery, 2003; Kim, 2011; Weaver & Schofield, 2015)  
    Their success or performance in school and daily life 
    Children may also underperform academically as a result of their parent’s break-up by getting poor grades, using drugs, becoming defiant, withdrawing from the world, acting out in class and stop doing activities that generally please them. 
    What can parents do to support their children who have witnessed high-conflict situations? 
    Parents may see the conflict as necessary when going through divorce proceedings, but you need to remember to think about the impact that this may be having on the child or children. 
    So the fact of the matter is simple; it is the conflict, and not necessarily the divorce, that puts your children at risk. 
    Supportive parenting strategies
    A few supportive parenting strategies can go a long way to helping kids adjust to the changes brought about by divorce, reduce the psychological effects and maintain healthy and supportive relationships with your children.

    Don’t put children in the middle. Children didn’t ask to be in this situation and don’t need a constant push and pull from parents.  
    Teach pro-social coping strategies and skills to help them adjust to what is happening. Offer reassurance at any opportunity. Children need reassurance that it isn’t their fault about what is happening.  
    Use consistent discipline when needed. Maintaining age-appropriate rules from both parents will offer stability and manage unwanted behaviour.  
    Monitor adolescence. As children enter adolescence, their hormones will kick in, and there may be further excuses for why they choose to act out including substance misuse and self-harm—Check-in with them and offer support where possible.  
    Empower your child to express themselves. Children need to be able to have a safe space to talk to their parents and express how they are feeling. They need warmth and comfort from both parents.  

    Get in touch
    If you are going through a high conflict separation or divorce proceedings and need some support for yourself or your children, then please don’t hesitate to get in touch with My Family Psychologist. 
    We offer specialised counselling services for adults, couples and children as well as mediation services. Get in touch and see how we can support you when you are going through a difficult time. 
    Visit the My Family Psychologist website here.
    Family law advice 
    If you would like any family law advice please do contact our Client Care Team to speak to one of our specialist family lawyers here
    References:  
    Amato, P. R. (2010). Research on divorce: Continuing trends and new developments. Journal of marriage and family, 72(3), 650-666.  
    Anon, (n.d.). How Children Cope with High Conflict Divorce: How Are They Harmed and What Can Parents Do to Help Them – Divorce – Support Resources for Coping and Moving on After Divorce. [online] Available at: https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/how-children-cope-with-high-conflict-divorce-how-are-they-harmed-and-what-can-parents-do-to-help-them/ [Accessed 13 Aug. 2020]. 
    Ben-Ami, N., & Baker, A. J. (2012). The long-term correlates of childhood exposure to parental alienation on adult self-sufficiency and well-being. The American Journal of Family Therapy, 40(2), 169-183.  
    Dunne, J. E., & Hedrick, M. (1994). The parental alienation syndrome: An analysis of sixteen selected cases. Journal of Divorce & Remarriage, 21(3-4), 21-38.  
    Gager, C. T., Yabiku, S. T., & Linver, M. R. (2016). Conflict or divorce? Does parental conflict and/or divorce increase the likelihood of adult children’s cohabiting and marital dissolution? Marriage & Family Review, 52(3), 243–261.   
    ‌Government of Canada, Department of Justice, Electronic Communications (2015). Studies of High Conflict and its Effect on Children – High-Conflict Separation and Divorce: Options for Consideration (2004-FCY-1E). [online] Justice.gc.ca. Available at: https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/fl-lf/divorce/2004_1/p3.html [Accessed 24 Sep. 2019]. 
    Hetherington, E. M., & Kelly, J. (2002). For better or for worse: Divorce reconsidered. WW Norton & Company.  
    Kelly, J. B., & Emery, R. E. (2003). Children’s adjustment following divorce: Risk and resilience perspectives. Family relations, 52(4), 352-362.  
    Kim, H. S. (2011). Consequences of parental divorce for child development. American Sociological Review, 76(3), 487-511.  
    Jekielek, S.M. (1998). Parental Conflict, Marital Disruption and Children’s Emotional Well-Being. Social Forces, 76(3), p.905. 
    Psychology Today. (n.d). Understanding the Effects of High-Conflict Divorce on Kids. [online] Available at: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/better-divorce/201912/understanding-the-effects-high-confict-divorce-kids [Accessed 13 Aug. 2020]  
    Morin, A. (2017). The Psychological Effects of Divorce on Children. [online] Verywell Family. Available at: https://www.verywellfamily.com/psychological-effects-of-divorce-on-kids-4140170. [Accessed 13 Aug. 2020] 
    Raschke, H.J. and Raschke, V.J. (1979). Family Conflict and Children’s Self-Concepts: A Comparison of Intact and Single-Parent Families. Journal of Marriage and the Family, 41(2), p.367. 
    Weaver, J. M., & Schofield, T. J. (2015). Mediation and moderation of divorce effects on children’s behaviour  problems. Journal of family psychology, 29(1), 39. More

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    What happens when a parent breaks a court order?

    What happens when a parent breaks a court order? When parents cannot decide arrangements for their children once they have separated the court can issue a child arrangements order to clarify a child’s living arrangements. 
    This order is legally binding, and if a parent breaches it they will be in contempt of court which could mean fines, enforcement orders and even imprisonment (although this is extremely rare).
    If this is happening to you, what legal options do you have? Rachel Fisher from Stowe Family Law in Bristol joins us with advice on what happens when a parent breaks/breaches a court order?
    What can I do if my partner breaks or breaches a court order? 
    If you are experiencing difficulties with a child arrangements order, including minor or major breaches, it is advisable to keep a diary of these. This means you will have a clear picture of the difficulties you have faced.
    Then I would advise my client to try and discuss the breach (s) with the other parent in the hope that they can reach an agreement without having to return to court. The court process can be stressful, timely and expensive. 
    Another option is to use mediation as a neutral forum with a third-party to try and resolve the disagreements. 
    However, in some cases, it is not possible to discuss or agree on arrangements and therefore, the matters must be returned to the court to enforce the original order.
    How do you enforce a court order?

    An application for enforcement is made on a Form C79. Enforcement proceedings must be dealt with without delay and if possible, listed before the judge that dealt with matters previously. A hearing will be listed within 20 working days of the application been issued. 

    What will the court consider when deciding to enforce an order? 
    Once the court receives an application to enforce a child arrangements order, they will consider the following: 

    Whether the facts for the alleged non-compliance are agreed or whether it is necessary to conduct a hearing to establish them

    The reasons for any non-compliance

    The wishes and feelings of the child

    Whether any advice is required from Cafcass on the appropriate way forward 

    Assess and manage any risks of making further or other child arrangements orders

    Whether a separated parents information programme or referral for dispute resolution is appropriate

    Whether an enforcement order may be appropriate and

    The welfare checklist

    What are the penalties for a breaching a court order? 
    At the top of all child arrangements order, there is a warning notice that sets out the consequences to both parties about what will happen if they do not comply with the order.
    There are several powers available to the court when considering an application to enforce and these are as follows:

    Referral of both parents to a separated parents information programme or mediation

    Unpaid work requirement of between 40 and 200 hours where the court is satisfied beyond a reasonable doubt that one party has failed to comply with a provision of the order

    Committal to prison (in very rare/serious cases)

    Changing which party the child or children live with (in very extreme/serious cases)/variation of the child arrangements order to include a more defined order

    A fine

    An order for compensation for financial loss

    A contact enforcement order or suspended enforcement order

    Can you get a court order changed?
    If circumstances change once a child arrangements order has been made, then it might be necessary to ask the court to vary the order if an agreement cannot be reached between the parents. 
    You will need to complete a C100 application form and explain why you are asking the court to vary the current child arrangements order. 
    The court will only vary a child arrangements order if they consider it to be in the best interests of the child to do so.
    Can court orders be overturned?
    It is possible to appeal decisions made by the family court, and I would advise anyone considering this to take legal advice on their individual circumstances.
    What can I do if I think my child is at risk? 
    If you consider that your child is at risk, then you should seek urgent legal advice on the steps you can take to safeguard your child. 
    Depending on your circumstances, it may be necessary to make an urgent application to the court.
    Get in touch 
    If you would like any advice on what happens when a parent breaks a court order please do contact our Client Care Team to speak to one of our specialist children lawyers here.  More

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    The calm after the storm: How to help children reintegrate back into the world post lockdown.

    Luisa Williams, CEO & Founder from My Family Psychologist joins us on the blog with her advice on how to help children reintegrate back into the world post lockdown. 
    There is no denying the impact that Covid-19 has had across the nation but it has particularly affected our children. 
    From talking to parents and friends, some children have adapted better than others. For some, they have experienced anxiety and a sense of uncertainty, especially when it comes to knowing what is expected of them.  
    As lockdown restrictions start to ease up, parents are left wondering how to make children feel as safe and calm as possible. 
    It is important that children are supported when entering this ‘new normal’ that the government keep telling us about. It may feel like there is a long way to go until we resume a sense of ‘normality’, however, we need to ask the question:

    What we can do as parents to support our children as they take the next steps into their new routines?

    Here are some tips on how to help children reintegrate back into the world post lockdown. 
    Educate yourself and get yourself up to date with any changes to guidelines before discussing this with your child. 
    Get your information from reliable sources. Check with www.gov.uk and the BBC for updates on any guidance. These are updated regularly to help parents ensure that they have all the necessary information.  
    Explain to your child about lockdown restrictions and what these mean. Explain that some things may be different and that it is not something that they need to be afraid of. Ask them if they understand and encourage them to ask questions. They don’t need to know everything; just keep it appropriate for the age of the child. 
    Reassure them that it is okay to feel worried or anxious. Ask them to keep a diary about how they are feeling or a worry jar where they can put questions in that they may have. This will encourage them to reflect on how they are feeling. Remind them that the rules that are in place are to keep us safe and that ‘now is not forever’.  
    Start getting them back into a routine.  
    During the lockdown, it is likely that their pre-COVID daily routine has been thrown out of the window and they may be getting up later and going to bed later. Gradually introduce earlier bedtimes and waking up times, especially as they get closer to their school return date. This will encourage a sense of normalcy.  
    Start going out for walks or to places where they may see other people so that they get used to being outside of the home environment. Many children may have opted to stay inside during the pandemic so may find it hard to be around people they don’t know. Get your children used to seeing people wearing masks and PPE and encourage them that this what some people are choosing to do in order to keep others safe.  
    Give children a choice to pick out a face mask so that they feel like they are wearing something they like. With new rules coming into place about wearing masks when shopping, the idea may feel uncomfortable to children as it can be restrictive.  Check out sites such as www.amazon.co.uk where they have a selection of child-friendly masks to choose from.  
    Spend quality time with your children doing something positive.
    This will help take a break from any anxieties they may have. This will also give you an opportunity to talk to your child and gives them a safe space to talk if they so wish to.  
    Encourage your children in a ‘routine’ of good hygiene. Washing their hands regularly when needed to the point where it becomes second nature rather than a strict regime. This will help make them less afraid and more mindful of looking after themselves. If your child is particularly health-conscious or has health anxiety, get a little pack together for them with things such as hand sanitizer, tissues and pocket wipes.  
    Encourage your children to think positively about what they are looking forward to in the future to reinforce a future-focused approach. Discuss what they may want to do in the future or where they may want to go. Make some plans with your child or children.
    Get in touch
    If you would like more advice on how to help children reintegrate back into the world post lockdown and find that your child or family members are experiencing anxiety post-lockdown and feel that they need some more support, please get in touch with My Family Psychologist and see how we can help. We work with children, parents and families to offer support when it is needed most, especially during these difficult times.  
    Visit the My Family Psychologist website here.
    Family law advice 
    If you would like any family law advice please do contact our Client Care Team to speak to one of our specialist family lawyers here.  More

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    Is my child ‘normal’?

    Luisa Williams, CEO & Founder from My Family Psychologist joins us on the blog with advice for any parent who has asked the question, is my child ‘normal’? I have rarely met a parent who has not at one stage, wondered if their child or their development was ‘normal’.  And no doubt, many of you […] More

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    Social media rescues young people’s sanity

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    Split decision: How to talk to your children about separation

    How to talk to your children about separation. As part of our Stowe guests programme, we are joined on the blog by Luisa Williams, CEO & Founder from My Family Psychologist with her tips on how to talk to your kids/children about separation.  Making the decision to separate in a relationship is never an easy […] More

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    Children learn through play – and they know it!

    When we watch children play, we are often struck by their intensity and captivated by their engagement. Children experience delight in playing games and creating imaginary worlds. Whether inside a cardboard box teaching their teddies, sailing the ocean on a cushion, or chanting while playing ball games with friends, they are present in the moment […] More